So, I guess I’m a runner now (Written May 11)

I was going to write the day before the Flying Pig Half, and looking back, I should have.  It would have been great to compare how an accomplishment like that can wipe out negative feelings, and a perfect example of what I hoped this whole process of half ironman training would do for me.  I was feeling pretty sour about someone I’ve been talking to lately bailing on me twice in 12 hours.  I was also annoyed at the fact that I was annoyed, by that.  I know that in the grand scheme of things, that doesn’t matter at all, but it was still getting to me.  I was also nervous about logistics, about how my knee would feel, and my shin.  I was nervous about if there would be anyone there cheering for me.  I was nervous about having to run my first big event without my friends, and about how water stops worked.  I started to second-guess what I was going to wear.  Documenting all of that in a post would probably have calmed me down some.  It also would definitely have become a fantastic resource in the future when I get nervous.  Something to look at and remind myself that no matter what the issues are, I can overcome them.  I was going to write, but I didn’t.

Instead of writing, I ate comfort food and drank 4 or 5 beers in the afternoon/evening.  I finally decided what I was going to wear and laid it out.  I finalized my pre-race logistics.  I went to bed nervous and unhappy. I didn’t sleep well.

I woke up nervous. I tried to remind myself that really, this is a training day for me.  It’s just a long run.  I have done workouts waaaay longer than this.  My time doesn’t really matter.  This is supposed to be fun and I should enjoy it. I made coffee, which I never do, and made my oatmeal.  I forgot that I wanted to eat a banana.  I left my apartment and hustled through the cold air to my car, trying to think as little as possible; trying not to be nervous.

I met up with a few people from my running group and we shared an uber to the race.  The driver was hauling ass taking us down there, and was hilarious, which actually loosened me up some.  We made it downtown and I was wishing I’d brought some water.  Dry mouth… due to…? nerves? herbs? the cold, crisp air?

Club picture time.

Potty time.

After that I felt a little better.  “Okay, at least this is going according to plan.  My system is ready even if my brain isn’t.”

When I came out, I didn’t see my friends, but quickly found some other Fleet Feet club runners and walked towards the start with them.  Eventually I caught up with my group and we found our corral.

My brain: “Uh oh… I have to pee.  Yes, even though I was just at the potty.  ORRRR… maybe I don’t.  Maybe I’m just nervous.  Just get started and see how you feel.  There are plenty of potty stops along the way.  Just get across the start line.”

Finally it was our turn to move up to the line.  I’m not sure what I was expecting, but the actual for us start seemed somewhat unceremonious… At least, that’s the way I recall it.  Maybe I wasn’t paying attention.  Maybe they only make a big deal for the people who are first up at the  line… that would actually make sense. Anyway, we were off.

The first thing that struck me was that there were SO SO SO many people around me.  There were hundreds.. .thousands of other runners, and there were people lining the route.  I didn’t really experience the spectators at the start.  I think I was just in my own little world, worrying about a thousand different things.  Every foot fall was analyzed for how it might be causing pain.  I thought a lot about having to pee.  I was very much in my head.  It was cold, but I ditched my headgear quickly, glad I had worn the jersey and that I had pockets.  Maybe the warm bodies all around me radiated heat. Maybe I just misjudged the temperature.  Regardless, I was glad I hadn’t worn more, and glad that I had gone with arm warmers which I could push down and pull up as I needed.  I quickly was dropped by my group.  I’d expected that to happen, but not so soon.  I saw another friend and ran about a mile with her, but was soon dropped by her as well.

I was alone, with thousands of people around me.  I began to understand how the water stops worked. My knee began to hurt.  I began to notice the spectators.  I tried to remember to take it all in; to look around at everyone; to smile; to observe the the giant river of bodies (of which I was one) flowing down the road.  I walked.  I walked early.  I accepted that I wasn’t going to hit this one out of the park and that this would be a test, rather than a triumph.  This was going to be hard. When I accepted that, I went for a pee.

Seventh street was where things changed, I think.  It was about on seventh street that I felt like I settled in and began to enjoy things.  I saw a family running all together.  The dad asked one of the little girls how she was feeling and if she was tired.  When she said yes, he said “Me too.  Let’s stop for a little bit and walk.  That way we won’t be too tired for more fun later.”  I saw signs that said “You’ve already won! This is just your victory lap!”.  I saw a guy leading a developmentally disabled friend or relative.  I saw hundreds… thousands of people doing something good together, and thousands more supporting them.  There were dozens of signs that read some variation of “go! random stranger! go!” or “I don’t know you but I believe in you!”  It was finally opening up and taking in these things that changed the race for me.

As the mass of moving legs and sweating bodies that I was a part of snaked its way through the corridor of cheering supporters, I began to understand why people do this, and why people who have never done this before all of the sudden CAN do it on race day.  I began to feed off the energy around me.  As my nerves faded, I really began to have fun.

After 7th street came “the hill”.  It’s a long climb out of the city up to the overlook at eden park.  It’s my route home on the bike when I ride to and from work. I know this hill well.  It’s a pain in the ass on the bike.  It’s never really that steep but there are lots of pitch changes, a few false flats, and it really doesn’t feel like it ever ends.  There was a guy half way up the hill with a megaphone and a giant cardboard “F” on a stick.  He was waving the “F” and saying “Look, here’s the “F”, now, get the “F” up the hill.”  Just before this guy I realized I was passing people. I was passing a lot of people.  In fact, sometimes I was the only one around who was still running.  Not only that, but my pace hadn’t even really slowed.  At no point in the race was I limited by my fitness, only by the pain in my knee, but here I realized I wasn’t having any trouble keeping my running form together or getting tired due to the incline.  The others around me definitely were.  My inner monologue was changing from “I might be able to do this” to “I can probably do this…”

I was looking forward to seeing my parents around the turn into the park, not quite half way up “the hill”.  I wanted to ditch some of my layers with them, and I knew seeing them would give me a boost and distract me from the blisters forming on the balls of my feet.  When I got to the turn, I couldn’t see anyone I knew.  I got all the way into the park… still no parents.  “Okay,” I thought, “I probably just missed them… that kinda sucks, but that’s okay.  I’m feeling strong and I am managing the knee pain well.  I’ll be okay.  Hopefully they at least saw me, even if I didn’t see them.”

I had to stop half way through the park to re-tie my shoes.  I was hoping to limit the blister formation, though ultimately that didn’t happen.  It was hard to get going again, but my favorite teacher, who has done this race before, told me to look out for the Elvis singing outside of the Krohn Conservatory.  He was actually pretty good. By the time I was done chuckling at that, I was back into my rhythm and enjoying this crazy experience.  Then came the Eden Park overlook. It was gorgeous.  I’ve been there before, but high on the energy of the spectators and endorphins, it was a special experience.  I’ll probably never remember going there any other time, but that fleeting view of the river on that Sunday morning will stick in my mind forever.

The crowds started getting thicker again as I got to Woodburn and I was starting to get more excited.  I was also starting to feel pain in my right knee and foot. I thought one of my friends was going to be in this area but I honestly didn’t expect to see them because of how many people were there.  Then out of nowhere, right at the corner of Madison and Woodburn I heard “Saaam!”.  Someone was yelling at ME! Someone who KNEW me!  They weren’t just reading my name off my bib, they actually KNEW me!

“Saaamm!!”

There’s only one person who yells my name like that!

I spotted my mom, several feet out onto the running course, where she really shouldn’t have been, waving like crazy, with a big smile on her face. I lit up.  I felt so good.  I ran over and gave her a hug, told her I was feeling good but couldn’t stop. She pointed and yelled “Dad!” and I saw my dad about 30 yards down the road.  I ran over to him.  He tried to hand me a small can of coke, which I had asked for him to have for me.  I had been worried I might be tanking by that point in the race and the sugar and caffeine boost would be necessary.  “No, I feel good! I don’t need it.”

“How are you? are you okay?” He said as we had a quick hug.

“I feel good!  I’m going faster now!  I feel good!” I said as I gave him the thumbs-up.  He told me later that I looked like a guy who was suffering a lot, that my stride was not smooth and that he wasn’t sure at that time if I would make it all the way.  Yeah, I was in pain, but I was also on top of the world.

I know my parents don’t really understand all the physical suffering I’ve gone through in training.  They don’t know why I do it. They definitely have no idea about the mental suffering and depression, and they think I’m kind of crazy for pushing myself so hard to reach these goals, but I also know that they love me unconditionally and are infinitely proud of me.  I’m infinitely proud to be their son.  And in that moment I was so incredibly happy to be there sharing that experience with them.  They don’t need to know just exactly why I do these things, because they know just how much these things mean to me.

That’s when I knew I was going to finish.  That’s when my inner monologue went from “I can probably do this…” to “Holy Shit! I’m going to do this!!  I’m really going to do this!  I’m a runner now! And I’m about to finish a HALF F-WORDING MARATHON!”

30 more yards up the road I saw my neighbor friends.  “Go Sam!  YEAH!!! You can do it!”  I waved and yelled “thank you!!! thank you for coming!!!”

Somewhere in the next mile or two I saw an official time clock and it was showing something like 1:48.  I knew I hadn’t started when the clock started, and I had probably a 15 minute cushion.  After some quick mental calculations, I realized that not only was I going to finish, but I might even make my 2:30 goal if I could just keep up a good pace.  I knew the rest of the race was mostly downhill.  I also knew I wanted that feeling of pouring it all out for the finish.

Coming back down into the city was amazing.  Cincinnati has a beautiful skyline, even during the day.  Seeing the city I grew up in while high on running and knowing I was about to accomplish one of the most difficult things I’ve ever attempted was pretty incredible.  On the way to the finish, I also passed a few of my tri-club friends.  Being surrounded by other runners also working their hardest to achieve their goals, flanked by spectators cheering you on, and then seeing a few friendly faces in the crowd was unreal.  I drew energy from every aspect of the experience.  It was the source of my fuel to finish fast.  There’s really no way to describe running towards MY finish, in MY city, surrounded by MY friends and MY fans.  That’s how I felt at that point.  This was MY race, and MY day to do something incredible that up until a few minutes before, I wasn’t even sure I could do.

Once the course flattened out in downtown, the crowds were even bigger, and louder.  My legs were both hurting a LOT by this time and my right foot was a mess.  I knew I had serious blisters on my feet. But knowing I had less than 20 minutes to go before the finish line, and feeding off the energy all around me, there was nothing that could slow me down.  I slowed down to talk to one of my friends who’d dropped me at the beginning.  She looked like she was suffering.  I asked if she needed anything.. water… a gel… just someone to pace and run with her.  She told me her parents were just ahead and I should go on.  I looked at my watch.  Less than 1 mile to go.  One more mile.  ONE MILE… ten minutes or less.  Time to go hard.

I gave almost everything I had at that point.  “Screw pacing. Screw watching my heart rate. Screw it all… I want that finish line.” I remember thinking.  As I rounded the last corner I saw one of my teammates taking pictures.  He yelled and waved.  I gave him the thumbs up but couldn’t slow down.  It was so close now.  My legs were screaming for mercy and my lungs were on fire.  I saw one of the first full marathoners coming down their finishing chute.  Seeing that guy stride like that was the last bit of inspiration I got on that day.  I couldn’t match his pace, after all, he was a professional runner, not a fat guy like me, there to give it the old college try… But I knew that a little bit of what had got him to where he was, was what put me where I was.

After a gentle curve, I could see the finish line. After a stress fracture, freezing cold training runs, hot and humid distance runs, lots of physical therapy, a lot of doubt, and 2 hours and 20 some minutes, I was just a few hundred yards from my finishing line.  Everything I had left, which wasn’t much, I poured out for the last 300 yards.  My finisher photo shows a face laced with agony and gasping for oxygen, but it also shows a dude having pushed himself past where he ever thought he would get, and earning a finish that will last forever.  It shows a completely different person than the one who started kicking around the idea of doing a half ironman 6 months ago.

Overdue Update

I haven’t felt like writing much lately.  Part of that is that I’ve been super busy with things for the last month or so, and part of it is that things have gone fairly well for me.  My base fitness has clearly come around and I’m doing okay putting in the time.  Socially, I’m still out in the woods, without a map or compass.  I guess I’ve sort of given up on that for a while.  I’ve made a few friends, but as far as romantic stuff goes… well… I’ll probably get a tri podium before I find someone I really actually like who might like me too.  Whatever…

Physically, I’m coming into form.  My swimming has dropped off.  I need to pick it back up to make sure I’m conditioned for a LONG swim, but I feel like my technique is adequate.  Not good, but adequate. My bike work is finally starting to pay off.  I’m not hanging with the A group or anything like that just yet, but I will in time and I’m able to lay down 50+ miles at a good clip, the way I could last year when i was at 80-90% of my peak form.  Running is another story but it’s not due to fitness.  My knee is killer.  The stress reaction has resolved as far as I can tell and even my shin splints seem to have subsided.  I just need to keep the knee functional and durable enough to last through the Flying Pig half marathon and then through a couple 6 mile fitness runs till my 70.3.

Last weekend I ran my first truly long run and did a lot of work towards erasing the remaining doubt I have about being able to complete this challenge.  I don’t think I’d ever run more than 6 or 7 miles, but I laid down 12.6 miles on Saturday at an 11:01 min/mile pace.  I’m really proud of that.  I didn’t know if I would make it, and I walked a lot towards the end because of my knee but I was able to push through, and that gave me a huge confidence boost. I need to do a 1.2 mile swim in the pool, do some open water swimming, and do some big steep hill repeats and I’ll feel that I’ve prepared myself enough as long as I continue to get 5+ hour rides in every weekend.

It’s still dark a lot.  Mornings are incredibly difficult because I don’t want to pound my legs too much with running and I cant seem to drag myself out of bed to the pool.  I’m unhappy with my diet and while I’ve become more resigned about my social life, it’s still a disappointment.  I’m drinking too much, and not sleeping enough.  So yes, it’s still dark.  But maybe the flashlight that is my training has finally become reliable?  Maybe I am just accepting that I’m 30 and unhappy and that’s just how it is.  Maybe I forgot what it’s like to really be content?

Falling Down

I feel like I need everything in life to go away. Nothing seems to be working right at the moment, and I can’t seem to catch any breaks.  Work is terrible.  Training is terrible even though away from it my motivation is high.  Personal life is mostly terrible.  I should be well moved on from anything truly worth being bothered by, yet here I am, beating the shit out of myself for things out of my control.  It’s all just too much and I need a break.  I need everything to go away so I can regain focus.  I need to find purpose again.  I believe in my pursuit of this triathlon goal, and in my pursuit of just being better at living a happy life.  I believe in myself.  I just need everything else to either work WITH me or get the hell out of my life.

After a few weeks of feeling pretty good and generally brighter days, the shadetree of depression is back, looming regularly over my everyday life.  I’m fighting with myself about sleep.  I’m off task when I need to be making progress whether it’s at work or in a workout or just around the house.  For the first time in a while, I’ve had a few episodes of “being stuck in a hole” over the past week or so.  I just get stuck dwelling on negative aspects of my life and can’t break out of that thought process.

Motivation isn’t really that hard to come by, but time has been, and the sense of accomplishment I usually get from my workouts has been elusive lately.  I still want to do my workouts and I don’t dread them the way I have occasionally in the past, but I’m hardly able to find time lately.  Sometimes when I do find the time, I’m either too tired or too depressed (I’m not sure if there is a significant difference most of the time) to make myself do what I need to do.  I don’t feel burned out the way I did a month ago.  I just feel bad.  My lack of progress on my weight is part of that.  I’m not going to come anywhere near my goal of racing at 150lbs.  I’ll be lucky at this point to race at 160lbs.  More discouraging than that, though, is that i’m not as happy after my workouts as I feel like I used to be.

  • Am I building up a tolerance to exercise-induced dopamine highs?
  • Am I focused too much on looking back rather than looking forward?
  • Why am I even looking back anyway? I know I’m a good person and have nothing to be ashamed of.
  • Am I letting my social life affect my training life too much?
  • Am I just in a dead spot… a plateau with training, and it’ll pass?
  • Is my tibia healed up all the way or am I screwing things up by not still being on complete rest?
  • Is this just a low spot for me emotionally and the training is actually going well and I just don’t really feel like it is because of everything else?
  • How the hell do I stop eating crap, and especially how do I stop eating at crap times?
  • I really like knowing that I’m pushing myself and I feel good about myself while training, so why do I feel so crappy the rest of the time?
  • Why can’t I catch a break lately? injuries and disappointments are piling up and things to feel good about seem few and far between.
  • Am I just mad about work being shitty?
  • Should I register for the bike races that are coming up?
  • Is there even a point to racing? I mean, I feel pretty sure I’ll just get smoked almost from the start.
  • How the hell does E-$$ do almost all her training by herself? and where can I get some of that beast-mode?
  • Can I even afford to do the things I’m already committed to?
  • Am I going to cross the finish line at all?
  • If I do, am I going to be alone?
  • If I’m not, will anyone there have any idea or even care what that moment will mean to me?
  • Is that moment actually going to mean anything to me or am I setting myself up for a huge letdown?
  • Why am I even bothering to try to meet people anymore?
  • Am I going to be depressed forever?
Well, it appears that I’ve fallen down that hole again…..

Being a Champion (Part III)

This is Amy Purdy, and she is a champion.

 

A half ironman isn’t easy.  Even for high level endurance athletes who do full ironman races and double irons…  It’s just less hard than the longer races.  Actually, for me, the whole point of doing a half ironman is that it is NOT easy. When I signed up, the idea that there would come a day where I line up with a bunch of other people and walk out into that water wasn’t really real… It still doesn’t actually seem real, especially after a month of being hurt and sick.  This would’t be an epic undertaking, though, if it was easy or seemed realistic from the start.

The whole idea with this was that I would give myself a challenge.  I chose to do something that is beyond my reach and hopefully to reap the physical and mental benefits of working to meet that challenge. I wanted…. needed a mental reset.  When I started this endeavor, I had a goal, a beautiful woman, the most amazing dog anyone could ever have and some idea of how it would go.  All of those are gone now, and I think part of me knew they would be.  What is left, though, is a new version of me, still incomplete and prone to stumbles and failure, but standing on the shoulders of the old version.  I’ve already overcome obstacles that people told me would prevent me from doing this.  I’ve run into new barriers that I didn’t even know would exist. I’ve pushed myself, fallen harder and gotten up stronger than I ever thought I would.  And I’m not even half way there.

When I started, this was a ridiculous undertaking because:

  1. I have a surgically repaired knee that has never been quite right
  2. I’ve never been a distance runner, which isn’t really a thing that people with a bad knee try to undertake
  3. I barely knew how to swim
  4. Most of my bike riding has been done with the intention of copious alcohol consumption afterwards
  5. I didn’t even know what a transition was
  6. I didn’t have the time
  7. I still don’t have the money
  8. I’m a short, not very athletic white guy who has spent most of his life playing classical music and being slightly above average in the academics… decidedly not a groomed athlete
These are all just barriers though… Border crossings to be navigated.

And more barriers have been put up since then… Brutal tendinitis in my elbow.  Recurring left knee pains.  Back pain due to a weak core.  And most significantly, a stress injury to the bone in my lower right leg which has left me in a walking boot.

I think in some ways these barriers, especially getting injured might be a good thing for me.  They have brought me to the brink of giving up on this dream.  I think that’s what I was really doing in my head on the way to Lexington last weekend… I think I was unknowingly pondering if I felt like I was big enough and strong enough to actually do what i set out to do.  I think this podcast came at exactly the right time and opened my eyes to that these struggles have actually made me bigger, and stronger and more able to accomplish what I want.  I’ve been forced adjust my outlook and I’ve been put in a position where I HAVE to decide that I’m going to ditch the sub-7 hour goal and master what I can; execute in the best way that I can, even if I haven’t done as much training as I would have liked.  I’ve had to get creative with my workouts of course, but I’ve also had to adapt my mindset.  I’m no longer training for a triathlon.  I’m training for me.  I think what that podcast taught me was that when you let go of everything else, and are doing something for yourself, that’s when the door opens to becoming a champion.

I’m not going to win.  I’m not going to be close to the winners on that Sunday in June.  I’m probably going to finish middle to back of the pack. But I can still be a champion.  I can believe like a champion.  I can care like a champion.  I can work like a champion. Because being a champion is about pounding it out of yourself.  It’s about turning off the voices, internal AND external, that tell you to stop or that you can’t.  Being a champion is about falling and then getting up again.  And again.  And again.  Being a champion is answering the question of “what are you going to do?” with “whatever it takes.”  Being a champion isn’t about winning.  It’s not about glory.  It’s not about victory.  It’s about heart.
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So I think what I want to put down about having listened to that podcast; the thing that I took away from it and which is propelling me forward is this:

The difference between normal or even good, and great… the difference between a participant and a champion?  It’s heart. It’s refusing to be satisfied with where you are and always believing that you can be more.  It’s breaking things down into manageable chunks and then having an insatiable appetite for devouring those chunks.  That difference is not unlike the difference between being swallowed by the darkness of depression and breaking out into the light.  Sure, it takes help from outside and there will be setbacks and stumbling blocks… But do what you can do right now, use the setbacks as stepping stones to whatever is next, never stop believing in yourself, and you’ll make it past where you wanted to be into a whole new bright world you never knew existed.

Being a Champion (Part II)

A huge part of being great, and of being a champion, is failing.  As Michael Jordan said, “I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career.  I have lost almost 300 games.  26 times, I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed.  I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And THAT is why I succeed.”   Kareem Abdul Jabbar said “You can’t win unless you learn how to lose.” Olympic Champion Wilma Rudolph said “Nobody goes undefeated all the time. If you can pick up after a crushing defeat, and go on to win again, you are going to be a champion someday.” and finally, Ralph Waldo Emerson said “The greatest glory in living lies not in never falling, but in rising each time we fall”
So what’s the point?
The point is this:

There is a difference between success and mastery.  Mastery is about the unyielding pursuit of “better”.  Success is about accomplishing a goal.  Mastery is about relinquishing the dedication to goals and results and instead dedicating yourself to the process of improvement.  While we may consider a painting to be a masterpiece, the master who created it sees every flaw and intends their next work to be an improvement upon the last.  It’s one thing to be successful, but it is another to be the master of your outcomes.  Success is is hitting the target.  Mastery is knowing you can hit the target again and again and again.  Success is: “Did you make the time goal you set? did you win the race?”  Mastery is “I did, but next time, I will do it better.” Being close to winning, or close to meeting your goals is an important experience.  Failure makes us stronger.  It drives you to dig deeper and work harder.  It’s the rabbit in your sights.  It’s the reason you find whatever else you can do, and then you do it. Coming close to what you thought you wanted to achieve gives you the ability to excel beyond what you ever dreamed was possible.

As Sarah Lewis says in her TEDtalk, “Masters aren’t experts because they take a subject to it’s conceptual end, they’re masters because they realize there isn’t one.” We don’t revere Michael Jordan or Beethoven because they did something great.  We revere them because before they were great, they always strove to be better, and after they became great, they still strove to be better.  https://www.ted.com/talks/sarah_lewis_embrace_the_near_win

The saying goes “If at first, you don’t succeed, try, try again.” And that is valid, but I think we also should add: “And when you finally do succeed, try even harder the next time.”

Embrace your failures and stand on the shoulders of the previous versions of yourself as you build the new iteration. Never stop reaching higher.  Never stop working for whats next.

Right now I am sick with a chest cold, and my arm aches with tendinitis and my shin throbs with the pain of a stress injury. I’m accepting that the goals I had once established may now be out of reach, but that won’t stop me from stretching out for them. If I fall short, it’ll be motivation for the future, and if I succeed, it will drive me to find out what’s next. I’m pretty sure that’s what champions do.

Being a Champion (Part I)

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This is Dave Scott.  If you know triathlon, you almost certainly know of Dave Scott.  He owned the 80’s for Ironman triathlon, as the Ironman Triathlon Hawaii Championship winner in 1980, 1982, 1983, 1984, 1986, and 1987.  He’s a champion.

I listened to a really powerful podcast on the way to Lexington on Saturday and this will be the first of at least a couple of posts about it.  It was the NPR TED radio hour podcast about champions. I was driving down partly as a favor to my sister, and also to see my aunt and uncle that live there and get a few miles in on some unfamiliar roads.  I was also hoping that a new rolling route would refresh my feelings and give me some inspiration… I was hoping that somehow I would end up feeling again like I can actually do this.  I was hoping to dispel the internal daemon of doubt that has hounded me lately.  I figured the ride would do this, not a podcast.  I didn’t know what to expect when I turned it on, but I knew the podcast would be about an hour, and that’s how much time I had to kill.

Here’s the link to the podcast: http://www.npr.org/programs/ted-radio-hour/331331360/champions

One of the big things I took away from this podcast, and which is keeping me going right now is that greatness doesn’t come in one step.  People who accomplish incredible feats don’t do it by setting out to win a race or beat a world record from day 1. They are able to break down something that is much too big to take on at one time and make it into “what am I going to do right now… what is the next workout going to be… what is the next 2 hours going to be”.  If you are going to achieve greatness, it comes from setting actionable, achievable goals and accomplishing those one at a time.  Forget about the race while you train.  Think about the training while you train.  Leave the race for race day.  Bobby Knight said “The key is not the will to win… everybody has that.  It is the will to prepare to win that is important.”  Emmitt Smith said “For me, winning isn’t something that happens suddenly on the field when the whistle blows and the crowds roar. Winning is something that builds physically and mentally every day that you train and every night that you dream.”

Today my diet is going to be great, and I’m going to do swim sprint intervals where I focus only on arm position. Then, Thursday morning I’m going to put down an hour of tempo on the trainer before I work my core.  I won’t win anything.  I won’t take seconds or minutes off of any PR.  Today and tomorrow I will accomplish actionable objectives.  I will focus on the training while I train.  I will leave the race for race day.  I may not be great or a champion today.  I may not be great or a champion tomorrow.  Today and tomorrow, though, I will do what it takes to be great.  I’ll do what champions do.

I Never Thought I Would Say This:

I miss running.

Seriously… This time last year I would have bet anyone that no matter what, I’d never like running enough to actually miss it.  I wasn’t even thinking I might ever “be a runner”  (I’m still not sure I really qualify as one).  Even a few months ago, I’d have just said I was only ever going to run because it was part of a triathlon, and that I wouldn’t be looking forward to it at all.

I lose weight from running, though, and I set PRs every time I go out.  It pumps me up.  I like how my shoes look and feel.  I like running tights. (HA!)  I like how I feel after a run.  I like how I feel DURING a run… Not the way I love the sensation of riding a bike and running doesn’t offer the same chance to commune with nature that comes from spending hours in the saddle and cycling is certainly more kind to your body.  BUT, I genuinely like running, at least a little, sometimes.  And I definitely miss it.  Injury sucks.

Pro tip for life:   Don’t get injured.

On a completely unrelated note: Seriously… are there no decent single women around here?  I haven’t met a whole ton of them over the past couple months, but I’ve met enough to have run across at least one or two that were genuinely intriguing. Or so I thought….  Sure, some are fairly attractive, or smart in one way or another, but on the whole, they’re mostly either, A) boring, or B) not really comfortable being themselves.

With respect to A: I feel like being passionate about something in life is a pretty important thing if one is to be a dynamic and interesting person.  Obviously for me that’s bikes and cycling mainly, but also mental health, the environment, and learning in general.  I feel like a lot of people in the 25-35 age group lack any kind of REAL passion.  COME ON! Be into something more than just shopping and watching netflix!  As far as B goes: I recognize that everyone has flaws and I expect them to.  I do, and while I don’t lead with them, I don’t really try to hide them.  I’m comfortable with them. Have I happened across some understanding that eludes others my age?  Are they unaware that it’s OKAY to NOT be EVERYONE’S cup of tea and that actually, our differences are often the most interesting things between us?

A microcosm and extreme example: I went on a date a few weeks ago with what may actually be the most boring person I have ever met.  After 2 hours of talking to this woman, I couldn’t tell you anything interesting about her.  She was into “design” but after querying her for 20 minutes on what that meant, I still have no idea if it means designing of a product or service or process… All of her responses seemed slightly nervous and designed not to offend, rather than to actually reveal any feelings or character.  She didn’t have any passions that I could tell, nor did she seem to have any real strong opinions on anything from music or food to social issues.  She was clearly at least somewhat interested in me, but honestly, I couldn’t tell that she even HAD personality for ME to be interested in.

Not everyone I’ve met is that bad, but none of them are all that much better either.  I dunno… maybe these two things are only so prominent when it comes to dating because the perceived stakes are higher.  Yeah, you don’t want to say the wrong thing and turn the other person off to you and you don’t want to seem weird for being too into something. I get that. But I can’t be the only one who has realized it’s best to just be unashamed about your passions and who you are… In the end, we are who we are and if we’re going to find someone who likes us, we need to BE who we are.  I would think that people my age who are still single would be even MORE likely to realize this…