Last Ride Before The Race

I wrote this a few days before my race and just ran across it now.  I wanted to document it, because I remember that moment exactly.
hilly forest road pic

Sweat drips off the brim of my cap and tip of my nose. It’s coming nearly in a steady stream now. I watch the big drops explode into dozens of tiny ones as they strike the frame of my bike. I can taste the same salt that is stinging my eyes. My shoulders and hips ache. My heart is pounding in my ears as I suck in as much oxygen as I possibly can. It’s still not enough though, and my lungs are crying for mercy. Their protest is drowned out by the screaming from my legs.
It’s a stark contrast from the untouched beauty surrounding me. An infinite array of greens and yellows shimmer in the sun and form a canopy over my path. Birds swoop through my field of view and the delicate scent of wild early-summer blooms rides on the slight breeze drifting through the valley. Somewhere deep in my sub-conscious, I’m aware of the dichotomy between this exquisite natural elegance and the savagery with which I force my way up the hill.
Despite the setting, I see only one thing in my mind’s eye. With every flex of my legs, I’m inching closer to the single point on which my entire existence is focused. Though my mind is foggy from effort and exhaustion, I can see the finish line perfectly.
No matter what, I’m going to get there.
I can’t stop.
I won’t stop.
5 days to race day

Passing Time

Everyone can look at their life and point out certain big moments, and even certain “eras” that define them for that period of time.  Accomplishments, relationships, major events… they are all milestones along the course of our lives.  Those don’t really comprise the majority of our time, though.  What about the time in between?

The time in between is like 85% of our lives.  We wake up, do our morning routine, go to work, eat lunch, work some more, come home, do our thing, then go to bed.  There is very little about these times that is particularly remarkable.  These can be some of the hardest times, too.  It feels, and in retrospect, can look like there is nothing meaningful going on.  If you are unlucky enough to suffer from depression, it can literally feel like you are simply waiting for the clock to tick ahead.  Waiting for the next time you can go to sleep because at least when you’re asleep you don’t have to deal with the crushing weight of being awake.

This is where we make hay though.  By passing time.  It’s these moments, hours, days where we can choose to fall into clock-staring and dreading each moment till the next event gives us some purpose, OR we can choose to prepare ourselves for those next moments and work to make sure we greet them with all the readiness possible.


It’s been hard for me to write lately.  After my race (still working on that piece.  It will come sooner or later) there was some difficulty because I was feeling so good.  The melancholy that normally inspires me to write was strangely absent.  Over the last few weeks, however, the difficulty has been the opposite.  I feel like I’m regressing. The triathlon was supposed to change everything.  I was supposed to have accomplished my mission of building a better me.  It’s been hard to write because writing about being depressed feels like admitting that I’m a pathetic failure.  I know I’m not.  But I also knew that the tri was going to change everything……..
I’m anxious a lot.  It’s not so much a general anxiety as it is anxiety about specific things that are generally present in my life.  I’m anxious about money and my job.  I’m anxious about the swim portion of my upcoming race. I’m anxious about my shin.  I’m anxious about if I’ve learned anything at all about how to be a good person to myself whether it has to do with socializing and women or with my weight and health.  I’m not generally anxious though.  I know what that’s like, and that’s not how it is right now.
I know that the anxiety I feel is mostly caused by general depression coupled with discontent with each of the aforementioned categories. It’s hard not to become anxious when you already feel like a POS a lot and then have other things pile on.  There’s a rational explanation for why I feel like this.  I guess that should give me some comfort.  Or something…
I think I’m going to be laid off soon.  My company is exclusively motivated by profit and “growth”, which essentially means that no one in the management structure will help you with anything if you aren’t making the company loads of money.  If you’re caught on the outside or even just determined to be a potential liability in terms of future profit margins, you’re done for.  I’ve spent 6 years doing great work for this company and I fully expect that I will be unceremoniously shown the door in the next month or two at the most. I’m basically living off credit cards at the moment anyway because they have refused to put me back on full time since I decided to stay in Cincinnati.  I’m trying to live off of 20 hours a week and I’m not making it.  I’m working to find a new job, but it’s soul-crushing to try and sell myself to whatever hiring manager there is at whatever company I’m looking into.  And when it’s an effort just to drag myself out of bed in the morning and the thought of getting a new job just loads up the anxiety of how I will pay my bills over the next 3 weeks… 2 months… year… It’s a lot.  I just need a real, full-time job, but the thought of having to learn a whole new office culture and set of company principles just fills me with dread.
It seems likely that the water temperature for my next race will be above 78 degrees, which means I won’t have the option to use my wetsuit.  I know I can swim the distance necessary for the race (1500 yards) without a wetsuit when I am in the pool.  I know that I’m okay in open water.  I don’t know if I am okay without a wetsuit in open water for that distance.  I don’t want to DNF.  I don’t want to kick on my back the whole way.  I don’t want to panic.  I don’t want to be last out of the water again either.  It was okay for my first race but at this point it would just be embarrassing.  I finally feel like I am improving on the bike… like I have gained a degree of cycling ability beyond what I have previously had.  But that may not even matter if I never make it out of the water.
Running still sucks, but it hasn’t regressed in terms of time. My shin however, is alarmingly painful.  The last MRI showed no bone damage, though, or any other inflammation in the area.  I’m not sure what to do about it. It’s a major stress factor for me because my cycling has improved.  My overall time should be faster, especially on a shorter distance, where I should do a lot better with the run.  Not if it all falls apart, though.
For at least the last couple years or so, and I think before that, I have been very confident that I’m really a good person to the people around me.  Probably because of my parents’ work in the mental health field, I have been instilled with a certain amount of basic will to help others.  I can be annoying, and I can be a debbie downer sometimes, but I think I’m generally always trying to make people’s lives better in some way.  I just want the people around me, especially the ones I care about, to be happy, to smile, to laugh.  I’m not sure, though, if I have gotten any better at being a good person to myself.  I think I have gotten somewhat better at identifying when I’m putting myself in situations where I will be less happy, smile less, and laugh less, but I don’t seem to be better at getting myself out of them.
I’ve invested a lot of caring, time, concern and effort into a few people lately, one in particular.  There’s more to it than that, but I just care and want to make their lives better.  Yes, I’m aware, of course, that you can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make them drink.  But it’s incredibly hard for me to accept because of my inherent desire to make everyone happy.  I work and work and signals seem positive (if somewhat inconsistent or mixed), but in the end, there are no results and I am left with an empty “maybe” message, or even worse: no response.  I sometimes think I’m being worked, but I’m never quite sure because I don’t think these are the kind of people who would do such a thing.; they almost certainly wouldn’t intentionally.  REALLY, though, the more important thing is that when this happens; when I invest this much in others, I lose sight of myself.  I lose the focus I should have on me and pursuing my own personal development.  I’m not treating myself well.  I don’t know if there’s a way to balance my own well-being with my desire to positively affect others and my hope to build a relationship with someone.
The triathlon was supposed to be the stepping stone to better physical health in addition to better mental health. 0/2 I guess.  I’m still drinking too much and not sleeping enough, courtesy of both the latest murky shadows cast over my life and my long-standing sleep difficulties.  I’m overweight and need to get down.  Type 2 diabetes is a real thing in my family and I’m getting more scared that it could become a real thing for me.  But even more, I don’t like how I look (I think maybe this is the first time I have stated that), I don’t like being round, I don’t like being slow up hills.  I don’t like being too hot all the time.  I don’t like that my jokes about how attractive I am are all bravado.  I’ve been trying, and I know what to do to lose weight, but I keep screwing up and it keeps reminding me that I haven’t really gotten that much better at being good to myself. Between this and my inability to make good decisions about me personal life that will benefit my mental health, I begin to wonder, at times, if I am even capable of making a difference.
The darkness is omnipresent.  I understand how to manage that better nowadays though.  I have made that much progress.  While the anxiety is neither new nor omnipresent, it does dim the lights which keep the shadows at bay.  It also seems less easy to combat than the inky shadow of dysthymia.
I want passion.  I want a finish line.  I want to believe again.  I want to know that my progress hasn’t stopped.

Sometimes you ride a wave.

Sometimes you ride a wave.

There was a post-race euphoria, as I’d expected there would be.  Then I signed up for another race to give myself a new goal and try to avoid the post-race blues.  Everything’s going great! I’m meeting new people, some of whom are quite interesting and intriguing.  A good friend is even trying to set me up with one of their other good friends.  I went on a little vacation, and I’m getting back to what I love: riding my butt off.  Sometimes you ride a wave for a while.

I really ought to have known it would only be a matter of time before reality came back with a vengeance. After you ride that wave awhile, eventually it comes crashing down.  I’m not excited about training and I’m dreading the swim portion of my olympic triathlon because I likely will not be allowed a wetsuit. While I am riding a little more frequently, for whatever reason I don’t seem to be getting any faster.  I don’t think I’m even as fast as I was at this time last year, in spite of a similar amount of training and higher intensity. I haven’t been able to lose any weight and I’m still drinking too much, and sometimes still for the wrong reasons. My shins still hurt like a bitch when I run, and I’m running SLOWER now.

Socially, I REALLY should have been smarter than to think that anything would be different. Anyone I have met has ultimately just put me on the old, familiar anticipation/disappointment/hope/excitement/confusion/frustration scrambler.  My friend who was doing the match making is now on her way to Africa for 27 months and the potential match is tepid towards me at best. I wish I didn’t care, but it’s wearing me out.  Why on earth am I so optimistic about things that are so obviously wrong?  I mean, I spent $50 and two and a half hours a few weeks ago on a woman whom I was convinced had potential.  Then, ultimately wasn’t even surprised when she spent more time talking to the bartender about their cats and was more excited about that conversation than she has ever been to talk to me.  HOW DO I FUCK THESE THINGS UP?  If you’re not surprised when something like that happens, you’re doing something wrong.  I also compromised my anonymity with this project.  It was a bad decision made with good intentions, but a bad decision for me none-the-less.  Now I’ll have to deal with the consequences.

I joined running club back in January to meet people, and the fall session is starting up. I’m in a group with more potential friends and a few single women this time around.  Realistically, though, if the result last time was that people thought I was gay because I never EVER hit on women there, the results this time are unlikely to be improved.  I do have some pretty good friends there, but as far as anything beyond that, I think I’m slated to always be “the goofy bike dude with the ridiculous glasses and lycra”.  In other words, I’m the Shakespearean fool, witty and perhaps wise, but never to be the hero, never the protagonist, never the victor.

Adjusting expectations is maybe the next step.  And getting a new job, because expecting this one to ever improve is as dumb as expecting my love life to improve.  I’m never going to be fast.  I’m never going to be particularly lucky.  I’m also always going to be funny.  And I’m always going to be okay in the end.  My confidence has been boosted, my coping skills honed, and I’m a better, happier, and more self-sufficient person than I was 6 months ago.  I think I accomplished a lot of good work on myself, but that doesn’t mean it’s not still dark.

This is all normal shit, so why does it bother me so much?  I’ve done a lot, and I like the person I have become.  I like how I treat other people even though it blows up in my face a lot.  I’m better than I was, but still not better.  I avoid the darkest pits, but still can’t shake the shadows.

I think I need to ride more.  I think I need a dog too.  I need to catch another wave.

So, I guess I’m a runner now (Written May 11)

I was going to write the day before the Flying Pig Half, and looking back, I should have.  It would have been great to compare how an accomplishment like that can wipe out negative feelings, and a perfect example of what I hoped this whole process of half ironman training would do for me.  I was feeling pretty sour about someone I’ve been talking to lately bailing on me twice in 12 hours.  I was also annoyed at the fact that I was annoyed, by that.  I know that in the grand scheme of things, that doesn’t matter at all, but it was still getting to me.  I was also nervous about logistics, about how my knee would feel, and my shin.  I was nervous about if there would be anyone there cheering for me.  I was nervous about having to run my first big event without my friends, and about how water stops worked.  I started to second-guess what I was going to wear.  Documenting all of that in a post would probably have calmed me down some.  It also would definitely have become a fantastic resource in the future when I get nervous.  Something to look at and remind myself that no matter what the issues are, I can overcome them.  I was going to write, but I didn’t.

Instead of writing, I ate comfort food and drank 4 or 5 beers in the afternoon/evening.  I finally decided what I was going to wear and laid it out.  I finalized my pre-race logistics.  I went to bed nervous and unhappy. I didn’t sleep well.

I woke up nervous. I tried to remind myself that really, this is a training day for me.  It’s just a long run.  I have done workouts waaaay longer than this.  My time doesn’t really matter.  This is supposed to be fun and I should enjoy it. I made coffee, which I never do, and made my oatmeal.  I forgot that I wanted to eat a banana.  I left my apartment and hustled through the cold air to my car, trying to think as little as possible; trying not to be nervous.

I met up with a few people from my running group and we shared an uber to the race.  The driver was hauling ass taking us down there, and was hilarious, which actually loosened me up some.  We made it downtown and I was wishing I’d brought some water.  Dry mouth… due to…? nerves? herbs? the cold, crisp air?

Club picture time.

Potty time.

After that I felt a little better.  “Okay, at least this is going according to plan.  My system is ready even if my brain isn’t.”

When I came out, I didn’t see my friends, but quickly found some other Fleet Feet club runners and walked towards the start with them.  Eventually I caught up with my group and we found our corral.

My brain: “Uh oh… I have to pee.  Yes, even though I was just at the potty.  ORRRR… maybe I don’t.  Maybe I’m just nervous.  Just get started and see how you feel.  There are plenty of potty stops along the way.  Just get across the start line.”

Finally it was our turn to move up to the line.  I’m not sure what I was expecting, but the actual for us start seemed somewhat unceremonious… At least, that’s the way I recall it.  Maybe I wasn’t paying attention.  Maybe they only make a big deal for the people who are first up at the  line… that would actually make sense. Anyway, we were off.

The first thing that struck me was that there were SO SO SO many people around me.  There were hundreds.. .thousands of other runners, and there were people lining the route.  I didn’t really experience the spectators at the start.  I think I was just in my own little world, worrying about a thousand different things.  Every foot fall was analyzed for how it might be causing pain.  I thought a lot about having to pee.  I was very much in my head.  It was cold, but I ditched my headgear quickly, glad I had worn the jersey and that I had pockets.  Maybe the warm bodies all around me radiated heat. Maybe I just misjudged the temperature.  Regardless, I was glad I hadn’t worn more, and glad that I had gone with arm warmers which I could push down and pull up as I needed.  I quickly was dropped by my group.  I’d expected that to happen, but not so soon.  I saw another friend and ran about a mile with her, but was soon dropped by her as well.

I was alone, with thousands of people around me.  I began to understand how the water stops worked. My knee began to hurt.  I began to notice the spectators.  I tried to remember to take it all in; to look around at everyone; to smile; to observe the the giant river of bodies (of which I was one) flowing down the road.  I walked.  I walked early.  I accepted that I wasn’t going to hit this one out of the park and that this would be a test, rather than a triumph.  This was going to be hard. When I accepted that, I went for a pee.

Seventh street was where things changed, I think.  It was about on seventh street that I felt like I settled in and began to enjoy things.  I saw a family running all together.  The dad asked one of the little girls how she was feeling and if she was tired.  When she said yes, he said “Me too.  Let’s stop for a little bit and walk.  That way we won’t be too tired for more fun later.”  I saw signs that said “You’ve already won! This is just your victory lap!”.  I saw a guy leading a developmentally disabled friend or relative.  I saw hundreds… thousands of people doing something good together, and thousands more supporting them.  There were dozens of signs that read some variation of “go! random stranger! go!” or “I don’t know you but I believe in you!”  It was finally opening up and taking in these things that changed the race for me.

As the mass of moving legs and sweating bodies that I was a part of snaked its way through the corridor of cheering supporters, I began to understand why people do this, and why people who have never done this before all of the sudden CAN do it on race day.  I began to feed off the energy around me.  As my nerves faded, I really began to have fun.

After 7th street came “the hill”.  It’s a long climb out of the city up to the overlook at eden park.  It’s my route home on the bike when I ride to and from work. I know this hill well.  It’s a pain in the ass on the bike.  It’s never really that steep but there are lots of pitch changes, a few false flats, and it really doesn’t feel like it ever ends.  There was a guy half way up the hill with a megaphone and a giant cardboard “F” on a stick.  He was waving the “F” and saying “Look, here’s the “F”, now, get the “F” up the hill.”  Just before this guy I realized I was passing people. I was passing a lot of people.  In fact, sometimes I was the only one around who was still running.  Not only that, but my pace hadn’t even really slowed.  At no point in the race was I limited by my fitness, only by the pain in my knee, but here I realized I wasn’t having any trouble keeping my running form together or getting tired due to the incline.  The others around me definitely were.  My inner monologue was changing from “I might be able to do this” to “I can probably do this…”

I was looking forward to seeing my parents around the turn into the park, not quite half way up “the hill”.  I wanted to ditch some of my layers with them, and I knew seeing them would give me a boost and distract me from the blisters forming on the balls of my feet.  When I got to the turn, I couldn’t see anyone I knew.  I got all the way into the park… still no parents.  “Okay,” I thought, “I probably just missed them… that kinda sucks, but that’s okay.  I’m feeling strong and I am managing the knee pain well.  I’ll be okay.  Hopefully they at least saw me, even if I didn’t see them.”

I had to stop half way through the park to re-tie my shoes.  I was hoping to limit the blister formation, though ultimately that didn’t happen.  It was hard to get going again, but my favorite teacher, who has done this race before, told me to look out for the Elvis singing outside of the Krohn Conservatory.  He was actually pretty good. By the time I was done chuckling at that, I was back into my rhythm and enjoying this crazy experience.  Then came the Eden Park overlook. It was gorgeous.  I’ve been there before, but high on the energy of the spectators and endorphins, it was a special experience.  I’ll probably never remember going there any other time, but that fleeting view of the river on that Sunday morning will stick in my mind forever.

The crowds started getting thicker again as I got to Woodburn and I was starting to get more excited.  I was also starting to feel pain in my right knee and foot. I thought one of my friends was going to be in this area but I honestly didn’t expect to see them because of how many people were there.  Then out of nowhere, right at the corner of Madison and Woodburn I heard “Saaam!”.  Someone was yelling at ME! Someone who KNEW me!  They weren’t just reading my name off my bib, they actually KNEW me!


There’s only one person who yells my name like that!

I spotted my mom, several feet out onto the running course, where she really shouldn’t have been, waving like crazy, with a big smile on her face. I lit up.  I felt so good.  I ran over and gave her a hug, told her I was feeling good but couldn’t stop. She pointed and yelled “Dad!” and I saw my dad about 30 yards down the road.  I ran over to him.  He tried to hand me a small can of coke, which I had asked for him to have for me.  I had been worried I might be tanking by that point in the race and the sugar and caffeine boost would be necessary.  “No, I feel good! I don’t need it.”

“How are you? are you okay?” He said as we had a quick hug.

“I feel good!  I’m going faster now!  I feel good!” I said as I gave him the thumbs-up.  He told me later that I looked like a guy who was suffering a lot, that my stride was not smooth and that he wasn’t sure at that time if I would make it all the way.  Yeah, I was in pain, but I was also on top of the world.

I know my parents don’t really understand all the physical suffering I’ve gone through in training.  They don’t know why I do it. They definitely have no idea about the mental suffering and depression, and they think I’m kind of crazy for pushing myself so hard to reach these goals, but I also know that they love me unconditionally and are infinitely proud of me.  I’m infinitely proud to be their son.  And in that moment I was so incredibly happy to be there sharing that experience with them.  They don’t need to know just exactly why I do these things, because they know just how much these things mean to me.

That’s when I knew I was going to finish.  That’s when my inner monologue went from “I can probably do this…” to “Holy Shit! I’m going to do this!!  I’m really going to do this!  I’m a runner now! And I’m about to finish a HALF F-WORDING MARATHON!”

30 more yards up the road I saw my neighbor friends.  “Go Sam!  YEAH!!! You can do it!”  I waved and yelled “thank you!!! thank you for coming!!!”

Somewhere in the next mile or two I saw an official time clock and it was showing something like 1:48.  I knew I hadn’t started when the clock started, and I had probably a 15 minute cushion.  After some quick mental calculations, I realized that not only was I going to finish, but I might even make my 2:30 goal if I could just keep up a good pace.  I knew the rest of the race was mostly downhill.  I also knew I wanted that feeling of pouring it all out for the finish.

Coming back down into the city was amazing.  Cincinnati has a beautiful skyline, even during the day.  Seeing the city I grew up in while high on running and knowing I was about to accomplish one of the most difficult things I’ve ever attempted was pretty incredible.  On the way to the finish, I also passed a few of my tri-club friends.  Being surrounded by other runners also working their hardest to achieve their goals, flanked by spectators cheering you on, and then seeing a few friendly faces in the crowd was unreal.  I drew energy from every aspect of the experience.  It was the source of my fuel to finish fast.  There’s really no way to describe running towards MY finish, in MY city, surrounded by MY friends and MY fans.  That’s how I felt at that point.  This was MY race, and MY day to do something incredible that up until a few minutes before, I wasn’t even sure I could do.

Once the course flattened out in downtown, the crowds were even bigger, and louder.  My legs were both hurting a LOT by this time and my right foot was a mess.  I knew I had serious blisters on my feet. But knowing I had less than 20 minutes to go before the finish line, and feeding off the energy all around me, there was nothing that could slow me down.  I slowed down to talk to one of my friends who’d dropped me at the beginning.  She looked like she was suffering.  I asked if she needed anything.. water… a gel… just someone to pace and run with her.  She told me her parents were just ahead and I should go on.  I looked at my watch.  Less than 1 mile to go.  One more mile.  ONE MILE… ten minutes or less.  Time to go hard.

I gave almost everything I had at that point.  “Screw pacing. Screw watching my heart rate. Screw it all… I want that finish line.” I remember thinking.  As I rounded the last corner I saw one of my teammates taking pictures.  He yelled and waved.  I gave him the thumbs up but couldn’t slow down.  It was so close now.  My legs were screaming for mercy and my lungs were on fire.  I saw one of the first full marathoners coming down their finishing chute.  Seeing that guy stride like that was the last bit of inspiration I got on that day.  I couldn’t match his pace, after all, he was a professional runner, not a fat guy like me, there to give it the old college try… But I knew that a little bit of what had got him to where he was, was what put me where I was.

After a gentle curve, I could see the finish line. After a stress fracture, freezing cold training runs, hot and humid distance runs, lots of physical therapy, a lot of doubt, and 2 hours and 20 some minutes, I was just a few hundred yards from my finishing line.  Everything I had left, which wasn’t much, I poured out for the last 300 yards.  My finisher photo shows a face laced with agony and gasping for oxygen, but it also shows a dude having pushed himself past where he ever thought he would get, and earning a finish that will last forever.  It shows a completely different person than the one who started kicking around the idea of doing a half ironman 6 months ago.

Overdue Update

I haven’t felt like writing much lately.  Part of that is that I’ve been super busy with things for the last month or so, and part of it is that things have gone fairly well for me.  My base fitness has clearly come around and I’m doing okay putting in the time.  Socially, I’m still out in the woods, without a map or compass.  I guess I’ve sort of given up on that for a while.  I’ve made a few friends, but as far as romantic stuff goes… well… I’ll probably get a tri podium before I find someone I really actually like who might like me too.  Whatever…

Physically, I’m coming into form.  My swimming has dropped off.  I need to pick it back up to make sure I’m conditioned for a LONG swim, but I feel like my technique is adequate.  Not good, but adequate. My bike work is finally starting to pay off.  I’m not hanging with the A group or anything like that just yet, but I will in time and I’m able to lay down 50+ miles at a good clip, the way I could last year when i was at 80-90% of my peak form.  Running is another story but it’s not due to fitness.  My knee is killer.  The stress reaction has resolved as far as I can tell and even my shin splints seem to have subsided.  I just need to keep the knee functional and durable enough to last through the Flying Pig half marathon and then through a couple 6 mile fitness runs till my 70.3.

Last weekend I ran my first truly long run and did a lot of work towards erasing the remaining doubt I have about being able to complete this challenge.  I don’t think I’d ever run more than 6 or 7 miles, but I laid down 12.6 miles on Saturday at an 11:01 min/mile pace.  I’m really proud of that.  I didn’t know if I would make it, and I walked a lot towards the end because of my knee but I was able to push through, and that gave me a huge confidence boost. I need to do a 1.2 mile swim in the pool, do some open water swimming, and do some big steep hill repeats and I’ll feel that I’ve prepared myself enough as long as I continue to get 5+ hour rides in every weekend.

It’s still dark a lot.  Mornings are incredibly difficult because I don’t want to pound my legs too much with running and I cant seem to drag myself out of bed to the pool.  I’m unhappy with my diet and while I’ve become more resigned about my social life, it’s still a disappointment.  I’m drinking too much, and not sleeping enough.  So yes, it’s still dark.  But maybe the flashlight that is my training has finally become reliable?  Maybe I am just accepting that I’m 30 and unhappy and that’s just how it is.  Maybe I forgot what it’s like to really be content?

Falling Down

I feel like I need everything in life to go away. Nothing seems to be working right at the moment, and I can’t seem to catch any breaks.  Work is terrible.  Training is terrible even though away from it my motivation is high.  Personal life is mostly terrible.  I should be well moved on from anything truly worth being bothered by, yet here I am, beating the shit out of myself for things out of my control.  It’s all just too much and I need a break.  I need everything to go away so I can regain focus.  I need to find purpose again.  I believe in my pursuit of this triathlon goal, and in my pursuit of just being better at living a happy life.  I believe in myself.  I just need everything else to either work WITH me or get the hell out of my life.

After a few weeks of feeling pretty good and generally brighter days, the shadetree of depression is back, looming regularly over my everyday life.  I’m fighting with myself about sleep.  I’m off task when I need to be making progress whether it’s at work or in a workout or just around the house.  For the first time in a while, I’ve had a few episodes of “being stuck in a hole” over the past week or so.  I just get stuck dwelling on negative aspects of my life and can’t break out of that thought process.

Motivation isn’t really that hard to come by, but time has been, and the sense of accomplishment I usually get from my workouts has been elusive lately.  I still want to do my workouts and I don’t dread them the way I have occasionally in the past, but I’m hardly able to find time lately.  Sometimes when I do find the time, I’m either too tired or too depressed (I’m not sure if there is a significant difference most of the time) to make myself do what I need to do.  I don’t feel burned out the way I did a month ago.  I just feel bad.  My lack of progress on my weight is part of that.  I’m not going to come anywhere near my goal of racing at 150lbs.  I’ll be lucky at this point to race at 160lbs.  More discouraging than that, though, is that i’m not as happy after my workouts as I feel like I used to be.

  • Am I building up a tolerance to exercise-induced dopamine highs?
  • Am I focused too much on looking back rather than looking forward?
  • Why am I even looking back anyway? I know I’m a good person and have nothing to be ashamed of.
  • Am I letting my social life affect my training life too much?
  • Am I just in a dead spot… a plateau with training, and it’ll pass?
  • Is my tibia healed up all the way or am I screwing things up by not still being on complete rest?
  • Is this just a low spot for me emotionally and the training is actually going well and I just don’t really feel like it is because of everything else?
  • How the hell do I stop eating crap, and especially how do I stop eating at crap times?
  • I really like knowing that I’m pushing myself and I feel good about myself while training, so why do I feel so crappy the rest of the time?
  • Why can’t I catch a break lately? injuries and disappointments are piling up and things to feel good about seem few and far between.
  • Am I just mad about work being shitty?
  • Should I register for the bike races that are coming up?
  • Is there even a point to racing? I mean, I feel pretty sure I’ll just get smoked almost from the start.
  • How the hell does E-$$ do almost all her training by herself? and where can I get some of that beast-mode?
  • Can I even afford to do the things I’m already committed to?
  • Am I going to cross the finish line at all?
  • If I do, am I going to be alone?
  • If I’m not, will anyone there have any idea or even care what that moment will mean to me?
  • Is that moment actually going to mean anything to me or am I setting myself up for a huge letdown?
  • Why am I even bothering to try to meet people anymore?
  • Am I going to be depressed forever?
Well, it appears that I’ve fallen down that hole again…..